One of the greatest falsehood in many of our GLBT churches is to proclaim that it is love really, that the story of God is about love rather than the love of God through Jesus Christ. Our own love becomes the evidence of association with God, but it is His love really not our love. Our role is to accept Jesus, the personification of God’s love.
When it is about our love for others, it becomes self centered on us, and often repeatedly falling. When gay churches promote love and loving God whole heartedly, it will come from the strength of our flesh which is rather weak instead of the love of God in our hearts being the motivating factor. Hence gay churches can be the most unloving places because it is all self centered inward looking.
1 John 4 is often quoted as about love, but surely we are not to believe in every spirit that talks about that fuzzy man centered love. For 1 John 4.1 reminds us to test the spirit, and the test is not how much we love God whole heartedly. The test in 1 John 4.2 reads
1 John 4.2 by this you know the spirit of God: evey spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is of God